I found this in my email archives...I wrote this in the summer of 2009.

Loneliness is like a Toothache

While we are single (or unmarried) we tend to put conditions on our happiness. One of those conditions is the absence of loneliness. The problem with this is that loneliness is an inescapable part of the human condition.  So, after reading about the life of a woman in her 60's that regrets the time she wasted in her 20's and 30's being a victim of her circumstances (she let the adversity she faced dictate her attitude which turned into pessimism which then became a self-fulfilling prophecy), I realized that most of us have the wrong perspective. So, to get the right perspective we have to look at things as if we are in our 60's.  

The process of life unfolds on its own...we pray for God to help us get the job we want, that we soon meet our prince charming, that God will bless our finances, etc. but all of these things are a part of life.  Ask anyone in their 60's and the story is pretty much the same:  everyone has had jobs both good and bad, everyone has family and friends both good and bad, everyone has gotten married (most everyone) and its been good and bad, and even finances are both good and bad at times.....so what exactly is it that we want God to do? Are we treating God like a genie that grants wishes? Are we asking God for things that are going to happen regardless? Instead of finding our own ways to avoid loneliness or asking God to take it away from us....why dont we start asking God for COURAGE. Courage to live life and everything that it entails with Christ by our side...

At this time in our lives, we need courage to overcome our fears (loneliness being one). Our happiness and contentment are directly proportional to the degree we surrender our life to God. Loneliness is like a toothache, it is a warning signal that something is wrong. If left unattended, it usually gets worse. At first we try to self-medicate by:
staying busy = temporary fix without relieving pain
buying things = discontentment
sleeping around to find intimacy = rejection/alienation

Loneliness is God's way of telling you that you have a relationship problem. Its not about thequantity of your friendships but the quality.

In our 20's, we need hope and the best source of hope is God.  Learning to have a constant conversation with Him throughout the day will cause the loneliness to fade. We may think that we have tried in the past, but I believe if we were real with ourselves we would realize how little effort we have put into seeking Christ through prayer and His word.

It also will help to let go of the past. I know each and every one of you has a big heart and truly wants to love and be loved. If we can all learn to be REAL with each other and let down our guards...I think God will bless our lives and we will be begin to understand that we are in each others lives for a special reason.  

There has to be a way to be fulfilled emotionally, spiritually, and mentally otherwise we wouldnt have the desire in us to be content.  Since we ALL have been burned by men in our lives, we know that some guy is not the answer.

So, dear friends, lets let God show us what it means to love unconditionally...lets make the most of the time we have with each other...life is so short!!!!!  Lets bring out the best in each other like never before...and lets make our friendships a priority...or more of a priority than ever...I love each of you so very much and cant thank you enough for allowing me to be myself with you!!! 

Loneliness is a gift: it reminds us that we are created for so much more!!!! We were created to know our Creator!!!!

Lamentations 3:24-25
"The Lord is my portion," says my soul, "Therefore I have hope in Him. The Lord is good to those who wait for Him. To the person who seeks Him."